Notes 5/3

There are no rules for blogging and I bear this in mind when visiting blogs. Even though I understand and respect this difference, I need to get something off my chest, so please bear with me. Basically, these notes highlight some things bloggers do to lose readers and alienate supporters.

After printing, reading and rereading (as well as completing an abstract painting inspired by) a lengthy fiction story, the author has not responded to my comment. It’s still sitting there on his blog. I had to defend myself the last time someone got on my case about no feedback. As you can imagine, this is a really frustrating situation to be in. I can’t win, no matter what I do.

One aspect of hygiene I’d hinted at was that at times, authors and supporters might feel that a reader’s attention is romantically motivated.

If I visit a blog, do I want to make out with the author and do stuff, provided they’re over the age of 21, even though we’ve never met in person, have never spent any quality time together and I only know them as aliases? Go ahead, ask me.

But let me comment on the sense making of having a public blog, with tags that are visible in reader, leaving the comments open and like buttons active, expecting people to read, being proud of our work and mislabeling support. If someone supports us, there is no need to rush down what I call the fantasy rabbit hole.

The blogs affected by fantasy rabbit activity have a comparatively low subscriber count; low support per post compared to other bloggers with the same subscriber count; and limited variety in reader interactions. In other words, it is natural that bloggers will avoid hostility. Common sense, you say.

Prude close up
… support from “bras” (as opposed to “bros”) from Prude.

But don’t take my word for it, please experience Interview with Demandire yourself while getting ready for work on a Saturday morning.  What is gained, in actual fact? Approval: One like per him, per post, if he remembers.

Here’s one more way to chase readers from a blog with interesting content, decrease peer support and reduce interactivity. Once, a blogger warned me about his wife because I typed xo at the end of a comment. Misunderstandings are common, but that was taking it a bit too far. I did NOT want to sloppy wet x and o him while moaning.

Another example? I read posts before and after publishing and imagine what readers might think I am saying. Otherwise, if I don’t know what I said, when responding to a comment, I might sound like Tarzan:

Tarzan 2

To me, every reader’s eyeball on my Gravatar is a 25 carat conflict free pink diamond, offered with no strings attached. Continued support is the polished stone, set in white gold.

At this point, I ask myself: What would a professional do?


Life is short, so let’s be decent.

137 replies on “Notes 5/3”

Could it be that your feedback or comments aren’t seen, if some bloggers schedule a whole lot of posts in one batch, then don’t log back in to check on their blog for months on end… (need a guilty face emoticon). I suppose different bloggers have different “agendas” behind their blog, ie maybe blogging is an occasional hobby rather than a more daily task.

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Thank you so much for this feedback. I appreciate the time you took to read this post and leave a comment. I considered that possibility. These remarks were about a weird situation. The bloggers in question were active and actively responded to comments on their posts. This was about super weird situations. Not the everyday hit and miss occurrences that we have on WordPress.

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Ah, it’s not you. Those who see flirting where none is intended are usually just those who are really desperate to see it from their own ego point of view or those who are really desperate not to see it because it is with their partner and the green beast is at play.

Then there are those who set out to flirt online whilst their partner is occupied and…well…you know how that ends.

However, that said, sometimes people are just overly friendly. You wouldn’t necessarily go up to a good looking stranger in a bar and snog his face off…not at my age anyway…but behind a computer people can be braver or more foolish, depending on your perspective *smiles*

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That is so true about the ego blinders. I am one of the brave ones, but I try to build a rapport with the other person first. Have a wonderful Tuesday and happy blogging.

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