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OPI has drunk the KoolAid. I went with Estee Lauder. I like my hands free, thank you.

I’ve read one too many negative reviews of the 50SOG book and film to not weigh in. I am enjoying the backlash against this jaundiced mass marketed bullocks. I got to chapter six and I did not like it. But this is not a book review. It is social commentary. I’m nervous when certain themes become part of the normal social discourse.

I think women jump through enough hoops to please men and encourage them to stay interested. Why does a relationship need homework and chores? Gaaawd. I already have a job.

One person told me, before we’d even held hands, that “we need to spice things up in the bedroom.” I said to him, laughing, we haven’t kissed, what are you talking about? His brilliant ideas included pulling my hair in the shower. I’m busy in the shower. There’s the moringa scented shower gel, then the Lush soap bar that smells like bubblegum, and of course I have to try the rose scented one and finally, the chocolate sugar scrub. I only allow hair stylists to pull my hair when they’re flat ironing it, and they’re gentlemen and tall and cute.

After I’d tied up and queued this post, I read this statement from Twin Flames Revolt:

In defence of Fifty Shades, the people who enter into passionless and boring relationships just for MONEY and LUST while bypassing LOVE: These people will end up flogging each other. Love is never so boring that someone may need sex toys or games of the brutal type to flavour up things. It has its own electricity, it’s own fire. So, nice to know, stupidity is a self-flogging mechanism.

A few days after reading the statement from Twin Flames Revolt, I read an essay about submission in marriage. I find it scary that Christian women may have already been caught up in this. Is there no escaping the tyrannical rule of men with low self esteem? It is no wonder we need to have a Human Rights Act, because some church leaders are using The Bible to suborn the will of their congregations. This is an excerpt…

Our husbands are all sinners, just like us, and to be ruled over by a sinner is not a pleasant way to live. However, when we submit to our husband we are showing him Christ through our actions and bringing him closer to God … Submission is a way for a wife to honor God’s commandments and show respect for her husband so that he will be induced to love her and Christ more.

She said it herself, that “to be ruled over by a sinner is not a pleasant way to live.” These are the words of an oppressed person. Christ was a champion for freedom, humaneness and liberation from oppressive overlords. That’s why he was crucified. How do we not get this after reading the New Testament? Women like these do not understand why women in Saudi cannot drive their own cars. You are not free, so why are you campaigning for the liberation of others? First, educate yourself about your rights and work towards living a life of quality. Be that light that shines before men.

Can’t we just love each other without the ropes and pulleys? I understand the argument that submission is giving unconditional respect to your husband, but what if he doesn’t pay the mortgage? What if he decides that your child’s terminal illness can be cured with warm vegetable soup? I cannot imagine why two human beings can’t just negotiate their way through the day. People who respect each other can do that.

Submissive Christian women, in my opinion, have already told themselves that being abused is alright. As for the rest of us? One woman, Vanity Entity, is clear that she’s not being coerced.

I am a submissive woman. I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman… I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength. I look to my loving Master for guidance and protection…

Michael Kirby, Jr (obviously an alias) thirstily lapped it up:

I am overly excited about this progression! Free of self imprisonent due to society’s fear of self expression. Women lack the art of submission in this era of life! They frown upon the act because many men, in return, lack the worthiness! Please educate while fulfilling your innermost desires, as well as mine!! I’m excited about your future!
-Kirby

I am not going to argue with a woman saying she wants to be chained up and whipped but Kirby, her admirer, now wants the rest of us to join in. And this brings me to my point about 50SOG. I think men like Kirby who want a non prosecutable excuse to hit a woman or draw blood will use 50SOG, the sadomasochism theme and the implied mainstream mandate for coolness and bedroom spice to do it.

Men like Kirby will tell you spanking is necessary for them to commit. They’re too lazy to ask you what you want and too entitled to offer it to you. They’ll get away with this because a lot of women will do anything to win a boyfriend.

You know the disappointment you feel? When you just meet a guy and you think he’s decent, then out of the blue, he has a laundry list of arguments as to why you should degrade yourself for his (viewing) pleasure. He will not have a ready excuse when he declines to return your calls.

It’s tricky when you’re already attached to him and you’re all morning chats and in each other’s business. One clever dude thought he’d send me photos of himself in his briefs so I would send him nude photos of myself. He’d taken his brief pix in the bathroom mirror as an enticement. Fifty shades of gross.

Please be aware that he felt exposed, nervous, insecure about his body and scared after he sent them. Then he spent the rest of the day sending texts begging for compliments. Hmmm…

It was mid winter. I was in bed with a high fever and on prescription cold meds. Did my illness and his apprehensiveness stop him from demanding to see photos of my bottom? Of course, no means no. So he stopped talking to me because according to him, I came down with a cold so I could avoid sending him bottom pix. Good riddance. When I called his bluff and didn’t chase him, he called back to find that his number was already blocked. Hot mess.

US Border Security. Courtesty Wikipedia.

Know your boundaries and protect them like border security. If he gets upset and freezes you out, ignore him. Rejoice. You already have things to occupy your time. If you have no hobbies, ask me for suggestions.

Here’s advice I received from a man who was into me, years ago, before Twitter, Google + and Instagram: “If you like the man, tell him. If he’s not paying you any attention, leave him alone.” For the social media age, I’ll add that if he has too many conditions for giving you his undivided attention, just stop talking to him. Because…

HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU.

You need to make a decision. Do you want that guy to like you so much you will agree to be yanked, squeezed, disrespected, called names and passed around like Graham’s Crackers? I enjoy the aesthetic mystique of S&M but I tell myself that when a guy comes along, it’s better to be S/M: Savvy and mysterious; serious and mature. If, among other things, he happens to be a neck squeezing, hair pulling dirtbag, he’ll find me unattractive and stay away.

By ΠιCΘLΞ

Life is short, so let’s be decent.

108 replies on “S/M”

So true. We suffer when we’re seen as tools. A means to an end. I wish people would understand better the extent to which their expectations and relationships were being manipulated by publicists and marketing executives.

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Ah, yes, but money is another big motivator, isn’t it? Everyone should be a WordPress blogger, so they know what hard work looks like without the worry of making any money at all. 😀

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Amen!!!! Thank you for mentioning the hard work factor. Money is a motivator but the stripping off is happening before contracts are signed. So the rest of us are expected to give away content for free.

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I have neither interest nor patience for book or movie. You raise many many valid points SB. And this advice – “If you like the man, tell him. If he’s not paying you any attention, leave him alone.” – is just gold.
Submission is something I cannot fathom. Even to think of it conjures a sense of asphyxiation, the feeling of drowning, immense anxiety and a lot of hand wringing. Submissive women (and I don’t mean just physical submission) have been all around me all my life and it has been entirely deliberate to play the black sheep.
Stumbling on this post is timely for me. I am feeling cornered of late and the demand is submission. But the motto in my head is, this head may depart the body, but it will not bow.
Besides, don’t all good leaders also have to learn to be good followers first?

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I understand your feelings about submission. It’s about trust, for me, as I don’t feel that it is right to place our lives in a lay person’s hands. I think a man would have to lack a sense of personal power to want to squeeze his partner’s neck because it’s trending on Twitter. The things people do these days to win a boasting session with friends is amazing.

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I tried to get through FSOG but couldn’t. It was BDSM for suburbia. The movie was so bad that I actually got angry at the dialog. It was that insulting. Similar to music these days, where it’s massed produced and fed to the uninitiated. Sterile and lacking a point of view.

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I laughed out loud at that comment. Thanks Rob. I saw the last 45 minutes for free and thought it was quite sucky. However, people were moved to tears, or so I read. If only we could mimic EL’s results. I’ll try writing blog posts in my car. Guaranteed to be full of swear words.

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Thanks a lot. The strange thing is mostly men readers liked it, because they are so nice and I appreciate them a lot because they trusted that I was not talking about them.

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Ok, that was a very looong trail of comments! I’m almost shy to add mine to it. 🙂 I haven’t read 50SOG or seen the film, but I have a fair idea about the theme, if not the details. I do agree with your main criticisms of the books and their theme. I was just reminded of an interview of a SM porn star in some documentary (100 Greatest porn films ever or something like that) where she said that the book and its treatment of SM made her nauseous and that that wasn’t how the SM relationship worked in real life. I do not judge people for whatever choices they make, that’s their life. But as far as 50SOG is concerned, it doesn’t do justice to anyone, not to either character, not to the reader/viewer and even, apparently, not to the subject the books are supposedly about.

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Thanks for this comment. I know real BDSM people and I thought the book was pure and utter crap. She did no research whatsoever and I think I commented elsewhere, but she might have just watched a Kiki de Montparnasse advertisement to get an idea of what to write. I’m not saying she has to give a truthful or realistic representation, but at least if you’re going to alter reality, see what is there in the first place. On top of that, people misunderstand BDSM and just think it is exactly equal to a man slapping a woman. It is some subconscious hatred of women that’s coming out, and I’m not fooled by these novices talking about experimenting. Thanks for commenting, HB.

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I’ve read all three books and boy was the writing just awful! I suppose the first book was decent. But the rest? I found myself skipping to the sex scenes only and hurriedly finished the rest on my commute. I haven’t seen the movie either but from what I heard it isnot that great. I don’t know about submission. I sorta of done it before just not in extreme, only lightly and for fun. I do believe though as you mentioned a lot of times women start out by pleasing the men such as pulling hair, spanking, etc. Some enjoy, some don’t. It’s a shame that women feel the need to do things to make their men happy but that’s how it goes because of.. looove…lol .

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Thank you so much for your comment. I have put up with my fair share of tripe, but I have a lower and an upper limit. It’s never worth the awful things that are going to be said in the end.

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I dont read the book yet… and when I saw the movie, I dont know what’s the movie about, at first I thought it’s only about romantic movie. But I call it a pshyco movie. But I like the movie…the producer not take us for to the sex point but take us to the psychology things I guess (watch until the end of the movie…i cry there, really….i cry). I like the romantic side of this movie, yes i like the movie…but doesnt mean I like the submissive things. Normal women needs and wants some respect. Women not a toy just to satisfied their men. But we can’t just hate them fully (who do that *the dominant)…because in other hand maybe they was the victim on their past and they become one of that (the dominant). I hate the one who created this kind of sick method sex game… its like a virus…pshycology virus. I’m sorry if I dont get the point either… just want to say, I like the movie for the romantic way, but I dont like the submissive things.

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Thank you so much for this comment. I really appreciate it. I’m glad you had the chance to watch the movie and have this perspective. I do appreciate romance, too and it is good that both things are separate in your mind. Thank you for posting such a lovely, well thought out comment. I hope you’ll visit again, soon. SB.

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Thank goodness there is a segment of the populace that wonders what exactly is exciting and fresh about S/M “literature” and film. I have not read the book or seen the film and somehow I’ve managed to carry on. Content to be blissful in my ignorance.

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You’re lucky. I read six chapters of the first book, which was given to me by a friend. It usually doesn’t take six chapters to get to the point of a story, but after reading nothing but a bunch of nouns, adjectives, verbs, conjuctions an pronouns jumbled together in a soup of words, I decided to give up. I have read Danielle Steele novels that were juicy at page one, so … I don’t know what’s going on in the world of publishing.

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I know what you mean. They kind of just jump right into the story. You know. I heard she wrote the thing while driving in her car. She must be a terrible driver, too if she’s using half her brain.

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Thank you very much. Easy to say, but may be tricky to put in practice especially when you’re vulnerable through trust. Sometimes it’s worth the discord just to be safe from the nastiness when things go wrong. Warmest, SB.

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Ever had that feeling when somebody emptied your thoughts in speech,that’s what you’ve done for me.And yeah when did love get so boring we need to hurt each other.And for all those who don’t know the definition of love all i have to say is that it doesn’t include the words power play at all(that’s in slavery)
That was maybe the worst most boring hour or so I ever spent.
Thanks for this i loved it and your experience reminded me of these guys who pester you for nude pics.Is it just me or did you also want to commit them?

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What a fine post. I was tempted to write a long reply, but I’ll shorten it to “Nice”. One can submit in any relationship to avoid anarchy, but any command always needs the filter of sanity. I suppose if the wife doesn’t submit, each man should be wary of any apples she hands him.

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Thank you very much. I would love to read a long reply. It’s nice when a man weighs in on these discussions. And I’m glad it wasn’t seen as a negative, attacking post, but one about being there for oneself. You are right, commands need the filter of sanity. I agree and thanks again.

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I was home sick and out of new movies to watch online and went ahead and chose this one to see what the fuss was about. Lucky for me I got the Asian version where they edit out all the dirty sex scenes, which was fine and laughable. The movie,It was awful and made me question the minds of my girlfriends who think it’s okay for a man to be like “this is who I am, you can take it or leave it, but if you want to let me abuse you, you have to sign a contract first”.. dang it. So wrong and so scary. My poor son may never get anywhere by being the nice guy if women are going to be teaching their daughters “Christian Grey” is the kind of man they need to be looking for.

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Thanks for this comment. I do understand why as women we need to fear for the safety of our bodies. Why are we giving them over to other people to use as they please. The final message of the story is the point: men get to be who they are, but women have to do whatever the man says to get that attention, that love and that respect.

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Great analysis! I love your take on the Fifty Shades of Grey obsession. I read one or two pages of the book before giving up because it was so terribly written. I knew I wouldn’t like the book because the idea of it was stupid I my opinion, but I wanted to see what all the fuss was about.

It’s disturbing to me how insanely popular 50 Shades is. It doesn’t display an example of a healthy relationship. For gullible people (of which I’m sure there are many), they may think they have to do whatever a man says for him to like her. And that’s not the case.

Thanks for your commentary on the topic. It was fun to read!

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Thank you for reading and sharing. The obsession is an indication of something that we haven’t quite put our finger on. As a fantasy, I don’t mind people indulging in that, but when someone mistakes that for a mandate for healthy social adjustment, I really have to put my foot down.

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Great article! Thanks for sharing. I believe that in a true relationship you are both submissive to each other. You both have each others best interests at heart. Keep up the great work!

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Thank you, Shawn. This is a good point that in a true relationship, we’re both submissive to each other because we both have each other’s best interests at heart. This is the key to everything. I appreciate your weighing in. Warmest, SB.

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Beautiful post, your points are so valid. Submission becomes invalid when men start using it to exercise unecessary authority, how can you love someone and find pleasure in belittling, degrading and hurting them? Shouldn’t the love these men claim to have for their women want to protect them from their selfish ambitions instead? I personally think that power hungry men should never be exposed to submission from women because they are just going to take advantage and use the submission to abuse, hurt and degrade women.

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Thank you so much for reading and making this comment, and for understanding the point I was trying to make: “Submission becomes invalid when men start using it to exercise unecessary authority”. Exactly. I am saying, what about my right to be treated with respect? Why do I have to be ground up in the machine, too? I’m not repressed or inexperienced. Anyone reading the fiction posts on the blog will see that I have the capacity to be adventurous. It’s so hard to be open and giving when you know you might be torn to shreds. And isn’t that the point of being intimate with someone else, to be vulnerable and trusting? When I refuse to buy into the rape culture and the misogynistic behaviours, people will simply say I am rigid, inexperienced or closed minded. Again, many thanks for seeing through to the core of my argument.

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Interesting post and I see your points! I’ve never seen a movie get so hyped up! I’ve both read and seen 50SOG, not for the sake that the books were well writen or the story was that excited. Because of the curiosity (and a friend recommended it), to see what all the fus was about.

And for me it was just entertaining to read and to watch with my friends, just like any other movie with a “boy meet girl, boy is difficult, girl accepts boy, boy changes for the girl, boy realises how much he loves girl” – storyline. I feel people spend so much energy hating on this just for the sake of judging and hating because it’s not their ‘cup of tea’. Well, I tell them, everyone is different with different tastes. I could never become a “sub”, I’m too stubborn but hey, that’s me.

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Very interesting and welcome points. I mentioned to another reader that I’m not just hating this for the sake of it. It’s really awful. I won’t watch the film because the book was bad enough and I couldn’t get through that. People will do what pleases them and that’s fine, but why are we all as a culture getting dragged into this? I like the idea of women exploring new horizons but who can be really trusted to not just go overboard. People don’t take the time to educate themselves. It’s just a fantasy they dream up without thinking about the real life consequences. I appreciate your visit and the read. Warmest regards, SB.

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Just on the top of my head; I think maybe people (women) just want/need an escape to a fantasy world and get caught up in that particular fantasy. Just like many do in fairytails, ‘cinderella’-effect or ‘happily ever after’ fantasies.
For me, it’s about picking my “battles”. There’s a consequence behind everything we do (or watch) as human beings, and if I was to analyze and educate myself on everything I was going to watch/read, well, honestly that would just take out all the fun. But 50SOG is really not that original anyway, or the first to explore the topic on S/M (‘Secretary’ from 2002).

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Thanks a lot for the reference. I love bondage art and I have a copy of Vogue Men with just that theme. It’s priceless and it’s specially wrapped as part of my art collection. I agree, the escapist portion of it is valuable and that’s why I like looking at the images. They’re fascinating to me because I can’t do it myself. There’s a subtle difference between the art and the torture. Sometimes there is a little of the latter involved in art, but if I get nothing out of it, I want no part of it. And again, what’s wrong with my saying “no” and having that answer respected?

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I don’t think so, since I checked my “Comments that you have made”, but my comment didn’t appear there. I’ll just try to remember my comment and post it again :D…

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I never bothered to even consider to read this book after all the negative criticisms that it received, I would rather read some worthwhile books and I’ve learned long time ago to read some book reviews from Goodreads before reading a book lol…

But seriously, I think that this book is very screwed up. However, what’s more screwed up is how many people thought that the book is very good. And the movie adaptation *sigh*, even just seeing the trailer, I knew that the movie would just be a bunch of BS.

From what I’ve read from several articles, the level of women degradation in that book is pretty high. It’s just so sad that our society is slowly accepting this BS and even becoming a social “norm”. I just hope that this trend will not continue in the future…

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What’s degrading is reading the book and knowing that there are writers out there that can’t get published when they write decent stuff of the same variety. I wouldn’t even mind the theme so much as just the quality of the writing. It was like chewing on old gum.

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It depends on the writing, even if the theme is quite disturbing, if the writing is excellent, then I can accept that. However, most of the good writers can’t seem to compete with these “mediocre” writers…

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Thank you so much, AB. I just … can’t with this nonsense. And yet, editors drive really fancy cars and dole out judgement and send rejection letters. I wonder if they are quite literate. If I had a publisher I would not want someone to say this about me, so this is not a throwaway comment. I had a good education and I’m not closed minded. I would rather stay up all night reading Thomas’ Calculus. Wait…

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While I firmly believed in the saying “you can’t please everyone” (which many mediocre writers seem to always utter these days), if a writer is really good, even if I don’t agree with his or her views, I would still acknowledge the skill of the author.

Unfortunately, many of the contemporary “mainstream” writers lack the necessary skills to write good books. Many of the better new books that I read are published by self-publishing authors… That’s the main reason why I stick to the classics when I want to read some novels.

Yup, I’d rather read an entire calculus textbook than read some of the crap they printed these days lol

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Seriously!!! And yes, I have lots of classical literature too. I will even slog through French poetry in French if necessary. Right now I’m having a good belly full of laughs with Plato’s Republic… in English of course! You?

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Yeah, the Republic was a very good read, I read it around 2 years ago. My French is very bad though, I only understood the basics, so I would not be able to read those poems 🙂

For some fun read, I like to read anything by Mark Twain, actually, I have his complete works on my e-reader.

I also like Pride and Prejudice, despite some of the negative reviews against the book on the net for “being boring”. I just laugh at that.

Currently, I’m reading A tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens, I’m only on the second chapter, but I already think that this would be an interesting read 🙂

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I keep starting over from the previous page as I don’t want to miss anything so it’ll take me some time to finish it. I highlight stuff (ibooks). Also, I’ve read A tale of… It’s worth every minute of your time. I just loved it. I’m not into MT, sorry and P&P I’ve read a while back when I was in high school. I felt I had to read JA because she’s English (ugh) but I am a Shakespare freak through and through. Have his complete works in the original English in print form. Thanks for sharing and do tell me when you get to the end of A Tale of Two Cities.

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I also like the works of Shakespeare so I also have his complete works, but in my e-reader.

Haha, almost every time when I told others that I am a fan of Shakespeare, they would just look at me weirdly. Well, it’s their loss anyway for not appreciating the works of a true literary genius…

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I did this earlier this year with a friend’s blog over two posts, but this time it was me and three other readers. We weren’t even talking to her and organising stuff. She told us off… If she sees this, she’s going to tell me off again. I’m so scared.

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Just one quarter scary, too. I’m looking forward to the next hijack. I hope it will be just as spontaneous and of course, let me know how the current reading is going. SB

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Women need not degrade themselves, they need to upgrade themselves 🙂

A woman lowering her standards for a low standard man… sad. The book shows C. Grey as a super rich man so it is basically teaching how to be a submissive mistress of a very rich man. Another dangerous message it conveys is that… being submissive and being ready to be degraded can be a road to riches. I hope teenagers or immature women never fall for that unrealistic idea. If the book were realistic, it would be tragic in the end. If someone agrees to be a lollipop of a cynic, she should be ready to find herself in dustbin someday.

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That’s exactly the point of why this book was apalling to me. “The lollipop of a cynic” is just perfect. It is the notion that every woman will do something in return for love. and men can pretend to be in love to get a woman to do things she doesn’t want to do. I want your words to ring out to my younger readers. I want them to be able to say no, and to think twice before making unreasonable demands of others. Again, my deepest gratitude to you for these insightful thoughts.

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Well I don’t think mature and self confident men will agree with hurting or degrading a woman. Fortunately I never had any bad experience that way. I am also not a Christian. But the man I have loved the most in my life is a Christian. Torture of women by men is not confined to any religion or culture, it is a very political and social conspiracy to stop empowerment of the perennially weak.
My experience with my Christian friends has been the best so far. They are very civilized (in the real terms) and caring. I don’t know but I can’t be in love with a non -Christian.

Oh well 🙂 that’s a different subject totally. I
I had been waiting for your take on Fifty Shades, oh I love it. The more people disagree with the sick mentality portrayed in the books/movie the better 🙂 I feel the planet is shining. The gross thing has pulled out the debate out of the closet to the drawing rooms and blogs.

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Thank you so much for your comments. We are making the same point, that the mistreatment of individuals by other individuals is a social phenomenon. I do expect a bit of defensiveness but to be fair, I had to show that this kind of thinking is not brought on just by a book.

If the degradation of human beings is a part of any religious creed, I will never accept or condone that religion. Respect for religions is a given for me; but people ultimately practice religions and it is not a blanket to protect them from censure when things go wrong.

I am aware that there are diverse denominations of Christianity. Every one of them is unique. I had the privilige to experience quite a number of them growing up. I have seen both the positives and the negatives. In the end, I do not want to live in a world where individuals have the right to be cruel to other individuals and be told that it is part of the betterment of mankind. My tears, my pain, my suffering and my misery will never uplift another human being. That is the salient point. Thank you very much, again for allowing me to use your statement in the post. Be well, SB.

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Thank you and know that I am rooting for the betterment of women and men through religion or social exchange. That is why we must practice listening to each other in a spirit of friendship, compassion and mutual respect. Without it, we are nothing. See you around at your blog soon, you bold, fascinating woman, SB.

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So here we go… in 2015 BSDM becomes mainstream and the price of latex skyrockets. “ouch” is my safe word but maybe it’s time to open up a sex shop and make a killing on this trend hah!
Also, some good advice there at the end as we can be a little dense… or just insensitive assholes 🙂

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Preach lady! I laughed and applauded and few times. The whole 50 shades thing seems to me to be very pitiful. I’ve heard women talk about it like naughty school girls. Not attractive at all. It made me smile to read a grown woman’s response to it. Go Girl!

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Thank you, so much. I’ve never had the “go girl” gesture of appreciation before so I’m very pleased. I’m so happy to hear that as a man, you find the whole thing gross. I want women to read this comment and see that men are able to respect them, too. It all boils down to mutual respect and communicating with each other about needs. Big hugs, SB.

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Thank you for this commentary and for the link to your previous post. Given the response to this article, I would like to post it as a separate response, with your permission?

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I was glad to hear a grown women say that the “Emperor had no clothes on.” 🙂 I was worried I had said too much on someone else’s space. I can jabber on at times. I would be happy for you to do what ever you would like with it. It may need some editing. I typed it on the way out of the house this morning. Be blessed! & Most Groovy!

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Thank you, Groovy Guy. Will pretty it up. I just love your accent by the way. I’ll splice the poem text throughout for aesthetic value. Look out for it later. Warmest, SB.

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I am excited. Can’t wait to see what you do. Central Louisiana born and raised and Alabama since 1993. Basically a country boy who read a lot of books. 🙂

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Hiya, if you’re still around, it’s up in about five minutes @ 00:30 GMT. It was a thought provoking commentary and really needs to stand out on its own. I am so grateful to you for writing this. We don’t all get to see the dark underbelly of society and having your voice tell us this is not all fun and games and that submissives are getting off on being mistreated is really important. Thanks for helping me to grow a richer perspective. SB.

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The traditional Hegelian dialectic would sat that the submissives are actually the most powerful. The dominating ones are so much more dependent. There is power in the submission even if it is unacknowledged

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